Once you begin working with an IFS therapist, you’ll spend a lot of time focusing on the Parts. You’ll grow to understand them, empathize with them, and even communicate with them. You and your therapist may each have your own ideas on what the healing process will look like. However, your Parts will guide the [...]

Traditional trauma therapy takes a much different approach to healing than the Internal Family Systems Model does. However, it is that approach that makes it so difficult for trauma victims to begin and sustain the healing process. If you have never been a part of IFS, it may surprise you to learn some of the [...]

Thirty to forty years ago, traumatized patients in need of Internal Family Systems therapy were typically diagnosed with what they called multiple personality disorder. In those days, the Self was referred to as the “host” because it was seen as more of an empty vessel for the traumatized Parts. The Self offers hospitality. Today, research [...]

Far too many trauma victims enter into therapy to try and get healing while still feeling as though they are not safe to heal at all. This is due to the “blending” of the Parts that has taken place as a result of the traumatic event. It is false to assume that traumatic events need [...]

All trauma victims have Parts that are harder to handle than others. Parts like Rage, Terror, and Judgment are ones that many people would rather just forget about entirely. But trying to forget about them isn’t going to make them go away, and it won’t address the inherent issues the individual is experiencing because of [...]

Many trauma survivors are too blended with their Parts to actively engage in mindfulness. Because they so closely identify with their Parts’ feelings and beliefs, it is challenging for them to see them separately. Practicing externalized mindfulness is an important component of trauma therapy that can help with that. As a therapist, this type of [...]

We have discussed some of what you can expect when you begin working with an internal family systems therapist. For example, you will be instructed to focus internally, reminded that you are the one in control, and why “Parts” language is used. But there is more you should be aware of as well, which I [...]

If you have never experienced the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy, the concept is probably very unfamiliar to you. It is normal to wonder what you can expect to experience during your sessions and throughout the healing process. Let’s take a few moments and talk about some of what happens when you work [...]

Every trauma victim’s Parts share the same body, brain, and environment. When the victim experiences a thought or feeling, it is important for them to be able to differentiate the “voice” behind it. That requires the person to stop, listen, and understand when that Part is speaking. There is a lot of healing that can [...]

Many trauma survivors find it easy to be compassionate toward others, but when it comes to offering themselves that same level of compassion, they struggle. They learn to tolerate hurt, disappointment, and even rejection in their relationships with the people they care about. Yet, they lack the ability to accept themselves unconditionally. Mindfulness plays an [...]