If you are the spouse or partner of someone who is battling sexual addiction, you probably already have so much you are dealing with. Navigating the healing process is challenging, which means there may be some things that you overlook.
Because your situation is so unique, it is helpful to stop and consider the following topics and take the appropriate steps to protect yourself.
The Risk of STDs and HIV
Like many victims of sexual addiction, the question, “Did your affair partner have an STD?” may have been one of the first ones you asked once you learned of the affair. Unfortunately, many people are hesitant to question their affair partners about such things, and it is common for people to lie about them as well. As a result, it is important to consider that the answer you received from your spouse or partner might not have been the truth.
One of the most important steps for you to take to protect your own health and well-being is to talk with your doctor about getting tested. Your doctor will do their very best to be as discreet as possible to help you avoid feeling nervous or ashamed.
Acting quickly is critical. Many STDs can be treated easily with antibiotics, but putting the tests off can lead to serious health issues in some cases.
Protecting Your Financial Security
In addition to protecting your health, you will also want to be sure to protect yourself financially. Sadly, financial hardships are a given for many victims of sexual addiction. There is always the risk of being abandoned, which can quickly change the course of your life.
Many people with sexual addictions spend thousands of dollars investing in their affairs. It is common for many victims – especially those who have been married for a long time – to look the other way because they do not want to give up their lifestyles.
Far too many people find themselves living in poverty simply because they took a hands-off approach when it came to the finances in their marriages. One of the best things people can do is to be actively involved in planning for their futures. That involves everything from knowing how to access shared financial accounts to understanding where the money that pays for the household is coming from.
The Trauma You Have Endured – Healing is Possible
If you have been negatively impacted because of your spouse’s or partner’s sexual addiction, the trauma you have endured is likely to be severe. The healing process takes time and it requires a lot of hard work and dedication. However, that does not mean it is impossible to heal and recover. You can, and it helps to have someone who will walk with you through every step.
Regardless of where your spouse or partner is in their healing process, today is a great day to start working on your own. Please contact me if you would like to make an appointment.
