The Internal Family Systems (IFS) Model of treating trauma is so effective because it addresses a core problem many trauma victims experience – effectively understanding their Parts once they become aware of them. Once a person understands their Parts, they can move toward managing them appropriately.
Even so, this is not something a person can learn to do overnight, or even in a short amount of time. It can take a while for a trauma victim to even become aware of the normal life Self and what makes the Parts separate from that. However, there are some steps that should be taken under the careful instruction of a trauma therapist that specializes in IFS Therapy.
Step #1: Assume and Observe
The very first step a trauma victim must take is two-fold: to assume that any internal communications they receive are coming from the Parts and how to simply observe them. In this instance, internal communications can refer to bodily responses, thoughts, emotions, and instincts. All of these are common methods the Parts use to communicate important things to the Self. This applies even when the individual suffers from amnesia and cannot remember an event that took place.
Once information has been communicated from the Parts, it is typical for the Self to react to it. However, reacting serves no purpose and it certainly will not address the issues the Parts are experiencing. Instead, trauma victims should hold back any knee-jerk reactions in favor of simply observing what is happening. For example, if the Self experiences fear that seems to have no real origin, observing might involve trying to determine what triggered it. This brings us to Step #2.
Step #2: Decoding
Quite often, safety is a concern when trauma victims have no memory of specific events. In these situations, it is vital to try to decode what has taken place to gain even more understanding. This can involve asking questions like:
- What took place after the event occurred?
- What types of clues are available to fill in any memory gaps?
- Is it possible to look at the Parts’ various characteristics to determine where information is coming from?
Making educated guesses is best done with the guidance of a therapist who understands the IFS Model. A therapist can help draw the correct parallels and guide the victim into better understanding.
Step #3: Assigning
There is a lot of symptom relief for trauma victims when the Parts finally feel understood and affirmed. Assigning simply refers to the act of saying, for example, “A Part of me feels very sad because I wasn’t invited to the party.” When powerful emotions like sadness are assigned to Parts, it has a very similar effect as when a parent notices a child’s mood and helps that child feel seen.
While it is a process, going through these three steps aids in unblending, which helps in the overall healing process.
IFS Therapy Can Help You, Too
So many trauma victims have found relief and healing in the IFS Model of trauma therapy. If you have been considering this method of treatment, please contact me today for an appointment.
